News from someone we know cancer, whether it be a family, a friend or just a simple knowledge, or not can be quite devastating. In fact, only the reference to the C - word already gives many people immediate OIE bumps. But despite all this, instinctively how we usually the knowledge of a sick loved one, we still are able to extend our support and sympathy to the sick person.
We always knew that more than ever, a sick person has need extra loving care call for tenders, in order to make it better. Thus, we propose to do things for him and his family as races; We give words of comfort and assurance. and give us hugs and kisses. These are the things that we know, and we believe that we should do to and from a patient.
What we don't know, however, is that a sick person with cancer is really pass by and what it is really think and feel when things are said and done, unless, of course, it lets know. In this case, we must be careful really because then we focus so much on him, edifying point of view of the patient, we might be causing her to feel more abatement of this.
Here are some examples of what we must avoid this when dealing with a cancer patient.
First of all, is insensitive. We may well say when give us advice and comments, but we must avoid comments demeaning, thoughtless, arrogant, negative and unsolicited, opinions, comments and assumptions. Avoid consciously or unconsciously blame the patient for his vices and way of life that we think or feel could cause his affliction. Do not talk about him with horrific stories saying, you know or can have heard other people with cancer!
Secondly, are too curious. We must avoid asking inappropriate on his illness, how he knew about it, how he felt about knowledge and what doctors have to say, etc.. Instead, we should expect that the patient to initiate conversations like this. If so, then listen us. As far as possible, we keep mind the patient off the coast of his affection.
Thirdly, is all-knowing. We must avoid giving false hopes and promises just so the patient comfort. Optimism and faith are a great thing but the attendant circumstances should also be considered. We must avoid giving patients exaggerated insurance as if we have a control over cancer. Most important, we should avoid to tell the patient that we know how it feels because we never really know unless we get cancer too.
Fourth, is pretentious. We must avoid acting clumsily around patient, as did not say what that it is wholly. If it did not know what to do or say the least that we could do is be honest assuming that he himself and apologize when necessary.
Finally, are distant. We must not avoid meetings and conversations with the patient and have no time for it all. He needs more than ever our support.
The bottom line is we must not only sympathy, but we must especially empathize with a cancer patient as well.
No comments:
Post a Comment